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Dianne’s Missives Dec 20

Thought to Consider…

The smallest package in the world is an alcoholic wrapped up in just themselves.
I can’t do His will my way.
Anger is the hot wind that extinguishes the light of reason.
Pride without gratitude is arrogance.

“Let no alcoholic say he cannot recover unless he has his family back. This just isn’t so. In some cases, the wife will never come back for one reason or another. Remind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent upon people. It is dependent upon his relationship with God. We have seen men get well whose families have not returned at all. We have seen others slip when the family came back too soon.”

“It is necessary that we extricate from an examination of our personal relations every bit of information about ourselves and our fundamental difficulties that we can. Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one. Calm, thoughtful reflection upon personal relations can deepen our insight. We can go far beyond those things which were superficially wrong with us, to see those flaws which were basic, flaws which sometimes were responsible for the whole pattern of our lives. Thoroughness, we have found, will pay – and pay handsomely.”

Carrying the Message

“Alcoholics simply will not listen to a paid twelfth-stepper. Almost from the beginning, we have been positive that face-to-face work with the alcoholic who suffers could be based only on the desire to help and be helped. When an A.A. talks for money, whether at a meeting or to a single newcomer, it can have a very bad effect on him, too. The money motive compromises him and everything he says and does for his prospect. This has always been so obvious that only a very few A.A.’s have ever worked the Twelfth Step for a fee.”

“We, in our turn, sought the same escape with all the desperation of drowning men. What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of God. A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, ‘a design for living’ that really works.”

“‘Suggested’ Steps”

“I remember my sponsor’s answer when I told him that the Steps were ‘suggested.’ He replied that they are ‘suggested’ in the same way that, if you were to jump out of an airplane with a parachute, it is ‘suggested’ that you pull the ripcord to save your life. He pointed out that it was ‘suggested’ I practice the Twelve Steps, if I wanted to save my life.”

Belonging

There is no more aloneness, with that awful ache, so deep in the heart of every alcoholic that nothing, before, could ever reach it. That ache is gone and never need return again. Now there is a sense of belonging, of being wanted and needed and loved. In return for a bottle and a hangover, we have been given the Keys of the Kingdom.

Dianne

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